Self care is the most difficult concept for many people to grasp.
When I am in the zone and totally overbooked I often forget it, too. “I’m too busy…” seems to be the mantra against self care, and it is time to change that now.
The concept of self care is taking time out of your busy life just for you; to focus just on you. Maybe it is to pamper after a stressful project. Perhaps it is simply being by yourself for 30 minutes. The idea is that by putting the focus, time and energy on yourself, you can be a better you for your spouse, family, career and the rest of the world.
Please save me the “I feel like it is selfish” that you are taking time out of your life only for you. I believe it is selfish not too. Eighty percent of my time spent with clients who are mothers focuses on this concept alone and my presence is a constant reminder to these super heroines that letting your own needs fall to the wayside only cripples your relationship with those around you.
So how do you start taking the focus on yourself so that you are a better you for them? If you feel you can’t do it on your own then hiring a health or life coach, nanny, maid, or therapist may be the trigger to finding your true self again.
Put down the checkbook for now and follow these five easy steps towards self care:
- Take back your mornings. This is my favorite time of the day for self care. Set your alarm a touch early and spend 30 minutes alone. No spouses allowed! Certainly no kids allowed! Use this time to focus on just you. Own it. This is your sacred time.
- Go within. Schedule out time once a day to meditate. Step away from the desk and take a walk by yourself. Bring back your journalling. The key is to find a sacred place for you to reflect on yourself and all that you are grateful for. I find that doing Early Morning Pages, a first thing in the morning sort of stream of conscious journaling, is a great way for me to clear my mind and dump out the negative energy or angry thoughts while leaving space for creativity and positive energy.
- Power down. The emails can wait until the morning. Your friends don’t care that you are watching ‘Girls.’ This is especially important if you, like myself, have trouble falling asleep. Studies have shown that the blue hue of TVs, computers and smart phones trigger our brains to think it is dawn and our mind wants to stay awake. The blue light suppresses your bodies production of melatonin (major hormone secreted by the pineal gland that controls sleep and wake cycles). Replace your late night posting and TV with a real life book with pages and a lamp with a warm amber glow.
- Get pampered. I said put down the check-book, but I think you deserve a massage. On the cheap you can run a warm bath with candles. I always recommend a good warm towel scrub to our clients. A good scrub reduces muscle tension, opens pores, detoxifies, circulates and calms the mind. On a great note, this process allows excess fat, mucus, cellulite and toxins to actively discharge to the surface rather than to accumulate around deeper vital organs. Simply stand in front of your bathroom sink filled with warm water and gently exfoliate every part of your body. This will help you fall back in love with yourself.
- Find your passion. Get back to the things that made you feel whole. Making a list of all the things you truly love and finding ways to incorporate them back into your life is the ultimate in self care. You deserve it. Painting? Singing? Dancing? Get back your creativity and live in the moment. Make the list as big and bold as possible. I truly believe in manifesting our perfect life and by making lists and telling the universe what makes you happy, joyful and full of love, you will get back what you ask for.
Do these sound difficult? I know it takes some time to start feeling that you are worth it, but it is no less important to having self care in your life. The very truest form of self care is living a healthy lifestyle. I know it can be difficult and that is why I have my job as a Holistic Health Coach: To remind all of you that you are worth it, that you deserve health and happiness, and to show you the way back to your path to total health. Namaste.
Healthy Lifestyle Coach, Chip Allman-Burgard, has studied over 100 dietary theories and coaches his clients through his 6-month ‘Lifestyle Overhaul’ program and the 3-month ‘Fast Track to Health’ at his Chicago-based company, Naturally Fortified.